REM Sleep and Dreams

The 4 Stages of Sleep (NREM and REM Sleep Cycles)

In my old age, I have come to realize our physical condition has a dramatic effect on our dreaming. Last night my unpredictable C-PAP machine had to be running well because I was in REM sleep and dreaming often. In my younger days, before my physical condition started to deteriorate, my dream patterns were different. I spent a lot of time dreaming about a sweet young thing who knew how to light my fire, without much kindling. There were plenty of sparks at times. In later years golf occupied my dream time. You might say golf was my second love.

One early golf highlight was when my two brothers Corky and Harlan, and I went to the state Junior Golf tournament. We all qualified to go but had no way to get there. Dr. Mickelson from Watertown drove us to Webster so we could play in the competition. That was a kind and generous gesture on his part.

One golf memory was about being stationed in Japan. I was the only enlisted man on our squadron golf team. I was the crew chief on a plane, so I had a close relationship with most pilots. They wanted me on the golf team because I played a good game of golf at that time. I played in one tournament and won first place in the first flight, with a sub-par round. That course had one par four that was 320 yards long. I got so pumped up over that round I drove the green but then went on to three-putt it. I was still sub-par on the last nine holes.

Another golf event was playing in Hawaii with my brother in law David Bowers. That was the most beautiful golf course I have ever played.

The last round of golf that I played was here on our local golf course at Lake Poinsett about thirty years ago with my son-in-law Phil Erickson. My balance was already getting bad at that time, so I could not play golf very well. I ended up in the sand trap on the last hole. When I blasted out of that sand, the ball just about went into the hole to Phil’s surprise and my shock and amazement. My golf career ended with a good shot and somewhat of a happy note. The memories linger.

In recent years I’ve had the same golf dream repeated over and over. It’s on a course that I do not recognize, playing with three people I do not know. The golf must be abysmal because the shots don’t get remembered or recorded, but I play a complete round with them.

This morning I was still standing on the tee box, and the three golfers teed off, and we’re halfway down the fairway. They all stopped and looked back to see what I was doing. I just stood there and cannot describe my feelings at that time. I don’t feel I want to know the meaning of that dream.

Atlantic Voyage














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The location was Kåfjord a village in Alta Municipality in Finnmark county, Norway. The date was in the 1860’s. The three Hoel brothers Eston, Simon, and Ole began to contemplate a voyage. There was copper mining being done in their part of Norway, they no doubt heard of the copper mining that was booming in the state of Michigan across the ocean in America. This prompted the three young men to sign up for that long voyage crossing the Atlantic Ocean.

1. Ingeborg married Ole Estensen Hoel.  Ole Estensen, son of Eston Simonsen (yngre) (Holen) and Ingri Embredsdatter Husum (Hoelen), was born in 1816.

Children of Ingeborg and Ole Estensen Hoel

i. 2. Esten Hoel was born in 1840 and died in 1911 in Rocky Mountain House Alberta Canada.
ii. 3. Ole Hoel was born in 1845 in Kaafjoord Norway and died in 1925 in Rocky Mountain House Alberta, Canada.
iii. 4. Ingebrigt Hoel was born in 1847 and died on an unknown date.
iv. 5. Simon Hoel was born in 1844 in Kaafjord Norway and died in 1914 in Brookings County, South Dakota.
v. 6. Oline Hoel was born in 1849 and died on an unknown date.
vi. 7. Anna S. Hoel was born in 1854 and died on an unknown date.
vii. 8. Rebeka Hoel was born in 1863 and died on an unknown date.
viii. 9. Inger J. Hoel was born in 1852 and died on an unknown date.

You can see by the size of the family, five sisters stayed behind. The brothers were all married and had young children at that time. It took a lot of courage to pack up their young families and move them to a new land. They knew it was not going to be a pleasure cruise.  Unlike the Titanic, the big steamship they were taking was not built for anything but moving people and cargo. They all settled at Calumet Michigan and worked the copper mines there. Eston was married to Marie Kaisa Antillian, they had 10 children. Simon was married to Christina Lindolahti, they had four children. Ole married Johanna Bakken, they had three children, she died in Norway, during the Atlantic crossing or in  Michigan. No record was ever found.

The three brothers steamship voyage was not undertaken so they could spend the rest of their lives working in the copper mines. They worked hard and saved their money so they could fulfill their dream of moving West to the fertile farmland of the Dakotas. Simon had only daughters, so Ole’s son Andrew stayed with Simon’s family and helped him farm.

Eston and Ole continued their search for paradise.  After a few years in the Dakotas, they went north. Working hard for the rest of their lives clearing and farming land on the foothills of the Majestic Rocky Mountains of Alberta, Canada. After that steamship voyage, they traveled by railroad, ox cart and horses and wagons. It was many years before the first vehicles were being used.

My wife has always been after me to go on a voyage not so much a voyage as a cruise. She has always been fascinated with the idea of going on an ocean cruise, on one of those fancy luxury ships. I told her Dream on dear, “The close as we are going to get to having a cruise is if we pack a lunch in a brown grocery bag and take it down to the lake.” “I will rent a rowboat and we can cruise around the lake awhile.” We could try to make a romantic cruise out of it!


Never Say Never


Quote Me
Do you have a favorite quote that you return to again and again? What is it, and why does it move you?

“Never say never”

― Charles Dickens

Never say never is a very powerful quote.
If you even think the word never, you start accepting defeat for something that you are not sure your body is capable of doing. Our minds have the power to convince our bodies that they can do anything that our heart desires them to do. There are no limits unless we allow limits.

When you say never, your opening the door for weakness and indecision to go running wild inside of your head. They will mess around in there turning things upside down playing mischief. Your mind will have forgotten what you planned to do before never entered your mind the first time.

Be positive in every action that you decide to do in this world, strive to better yourself, to be healthy and the best at everything that you attempt to complete in your life’s walk. There is absolutely no room in your head for obstacles to stop you from obtaining the goals that you decide on. The only thing possible and capable of stopping you is allowing that one little word to creep into your mind, ‘never’.

The best possible solution for a successful life is to completely eliminate the word never from your vocabulary. The only time you can use it correctly is saying never to say never anyhow!

You do not want to ever use it as, “I never could quit smoking.” without the never in there you would have done it!

“Never say never” moves me because my life has been one incident after another, I just do what I need to do to press on with my life. Never got left on the roadside 51 years ago!